(Part 1 of 2)  Early recognition that an elder may need assistance allows for proper planning and preparations (i.e. increased number of options, improved quality of care, and less expense).  Here are a few things to look for during your next visit:

  1. Signs around the house. Pay attention to the living areas. A home that has always been well maintained but is now unkempt could mean that cleaning is becoming too difficult. Look for stacked or unopened mail which might indicate the person is having difficulty seeing or is depressed. Laundry or dishes piling up may mean the clothes are too heavy, or they have difficulty loading the washer or dishwasher.  Examine the yard and exterior of the house for signs that regular maintenance and upkeep is not occurring. These can all be signs that normal household tasks are becoming too difficult and some level of intervention is now, or soon will be necessary.
  2. Eating regularly/properly.  Sharing a meal with your aging loved one (preferably in their home).  It’s a great way to see what they eat and how much.  Pay close attention to how they feed themselves and how much they consume.  If in their home, watch how they prepare the food and whether they have difficulty.  Do they have trouble standing for extended periods or remembering to check the food, and turning off the stove or oven.  Also, check the refrigerator and cabinets to see if food is present.  Lack of food could mean that shopping has become difficult or they are struggling financially.  This will give you insights into how they eat when you are not there.  IMPORTANT: Most elderly people take medications which require food-so proper eating habits are especially important to keeping them safe and healthy.
  3. Walking/ambulation. Take a walk with your loved one.  It’s great exercise and a wonderful opportunity to chat (see final tip below).  Carefully observe whether the person is steady on their feet, how far they can walk, and if being on their feet for an extended period of time causes any residual issues (ex: dizziness or muscle soreness).
  4. Driving. Go for rides (note the plural) in a car driven by your aging loved one.  Visually inspect the car for dents, scratches etc. If there’s damage tactfully inquire about the cause.  When riding with them observe: can they control the vehicle and maintain a steady speed; do they get frazzled or frustrated easily, can they safely make left turns, and whether they remember to use appropriate signals.  Ask them questions.  Go for drives both during the day and after sun down.  Alter your route to see whether they can get to their destination.  Notice whether they have begun to self-regulate (ex: drive only short distances or only during daylight hours).

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